If I had it to do all over again, I wouldn't change a thing. We saved ourselves and my parents a lot of money. We figured being married is being married. We're not big party people. Mom and Dad still rub it in once in a while on our anniversary. They tell us they don't remember the date very well because they weren't there. We feel we got married for all the right reasons. I wasn't pregnant, we didn't feel we had to wait until we had some money or a big house or another car, and we loved each other. And here we are, 30 years later, a big house, two cars, two wonderful sons, three beautiful grandchildren, and we still love each other. Isn't that what it's all about?
Now a lot has happened in between November 3, 1979, and November 3, 2009, for good and for not so good, for better and for worse, through sickness and health. But again, isn't that what marriage means. You stay together for the bad, worse and sickness. I tell young people that will listen, that each hurdle and obstacle you work through and make it over, you are stronger and more in love on the other side of it.
I have to give some credit to the wonderful role models in my life, my grandparents, married 73 years and still living, and my parents, married 53 years. Setting a good example sometimes says a lot more than words.
We're not doing anything special today to celebrate. Just like out wedding, why spend money on something that's not necessary. Mom and Dad are taking us to dinner. We're saving our money for our trip to visit Brandon and family in Spokane the end of this month and for home improvement projects on our short list. Home and family is what's important to us now. I don't need another diamond ring.
30 years!! I feel pretty safe in saying we're in it for the long haul now.